In this world, where fornication is no longer looked upon as a sin, where lust is mistaken for love and a leer is interpreted as interest, when something beautiful is no longer confined to a marital bed, how does one practice abstinence?
When all around what one sees is one night stands, common law relationships that lead to nothing but more and more sex. How does one abstain? How does one maintain one's purity?
Sex outside of marriage can be detrimental to your growth financially, emotionally, spiritually, mentally. It can just simply mess with your psyche. Do you think God wants to ruin your fun and that is why he says wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse?
No, the wise all knowing one knows that sex out of marriage may lead to:
Ungodly soul ties
The Spirit of Lust.
Whatever baggage your partner is dealing with may become yours. That means his generational curses, plus yours are now intertwined.
If the relationship fails you may be left with the Spirit of Rejection and the Spirit of Hatred. These spirits are actually real. They latch themselves unto you and if you are not delivered, every relationship that you attempt is doomed before it even starts.
You may jump into another relationship to ebb the pain and it's like exposing salt to an open wound. You are not healed psychologically, emotionally, mentally and so you are a wreck and so the pain of the first becomes lemons in the second relationship and the concoction is not lemonade. IT IS BITTERNESS! Another Spirit to get delivered from.
The Holy Bible says, "it is not good for man be alone and so I will make for him a helper" ( Genesis 2:18). This scripture indicates God wants marriage for you and I, but just as he made a woman, Eve for Adam, so too has he made a God ordained spouse for you and I.
He has someone who is your ribmate. Personally, I believe, you are walking around with his RIB inside of you and you will feel incomplete, until he finds you, and you find him. Please note, however, that your first love should be Jesus. When you connect with him first, he will make your waiting process more tolerable.
The problem arises in finding your Ribmate because we place way too much emphasis on physical attributes rather than the spiritual.
When looking for a partner it should be asked,
"What can he offer me spiritually?"
"Can he accommodate my expansion as I evolve?"
" Is he intimidated by me?"
"Is he a man that fears and loves God? A man who truly fears God does not want to disappoint him and so tries to uphold ALL his commandments.
"Is he attracted to how I complement him more than my intellectual acuity?"
How do we wait for that one in 2020 when if you say, "no" another will say "yes" while getting undressed? This is how:
Stay true to your morals and your walk with God. Do not compromise your sexual purity. If he can't wait, he is not worth the wait.
Abstain from reading, watching, going places that will make you think about sex. If you are trying to wait, romance novels, NO! Movies with steamy sex scenes, NO! Entertaining certain conversations that will have your mind imagining.... NO!
If you are attracted to someone, avoid being "too" alone with him and for the gentlemen, that special lady.
Do not become intoxicated around your crush. Alcohol impairs your judgment. You may crash!
Lay your standards up front. You want marriage. You want to wait until after marriage to have sex. If he can't handle it, you saved yourself a heartache.
I would rather disappoint a man that may end up hurting me, than God who has been a constant friend through thick and thin.
When I tell you God has saved me from train wreck of a relationships before I even pulled out of the driveway, he has saved me.
I would rather wait long, than marry wrong.